Saturday 13 December 2014

It's Simple. DON'T Complicate!

What do you prefer, tangled earphones or the untangled one? What do you prefer, a Highway where your car would move swiftly or a congested road having traffic jam? What do you prefer, a life of a simple person who is not afraid of anything or a life of a terrorist who can't sleep each night afraid of being caught?

I guess and I hope the answer to all the questions would be the simpler one. Well, the same is with Life. Life, what do you know about it? If you ask me, no one knows anything about it! If anyone could answer about the real meaning of life, that is their perception of it. Some believe to live a normal life, being satisfied with what they have. Some believe to climb up the stairs at every possible moment. Most of the human population are of the 2nd kind but after a certain period of time, most of them become the 1st kind. That's how the circle of life works.

So, the point is, no one knows what exactly life is. I have heard that when you realize the meaning of your life, then your life becomes worth living. I say, who is there to judge us? I can work hard and achieve a lot of success in my life or at the same time, I can be idle and do nothing. Money is not much of a problem, you can actually earn the money anyhow which would cover your basic necessity.

So, as everyone have their own perception of life, I have my own. Life is something which should be kept simple. By simple I don't mean problem free life. No! Whatever you will do, you will definitely face some kind of problem. What I mean is, there is no one to judge you, no one. You are the only judge of your life. So, why can't we keep it simple? Why can't we be away from the complicated part? Well, already you have so many problems, why do you complicate life?

For example, if a mother strongly emphasize not to do that particular thing and that might be catastrophic, then why should the son do that? He shouldn't, he shouldn't complicate the whole scene. For example, if someone is married and wife tells her husband not to do that particular thing, then what is the need to do it? I'm not talking about the restrictions, I'm talking about complicating the things.

Unfortunately, we humans are in a tendency to complicate everything we have got and then blame either to God or others. We would whine for the next many years but won't simplify it. If you had a very strong friendship and which is broken now, the only possible explanation is that the things became complicated. Well, just like the earphones are untangled and used again, the same could be done with broken friendships or any other relation with anyone. We, humans search for new people and just leave behind the old ones. Then we should also buy new earphones every time they become tangled.

Well, easier said than done, but that's the story of every Human Being and that includes me as well. The whole point of this post was, life is simple, pretty simple. The only complicated thing in our whole lifetime was the way we were born and that was the time when we cried without reason. Life is simple, if you manage it very well. There is a difference between problem and complication. Problem arises because of each and every complication which was done before and it evolved over the time and came in-front of us as a problem.

I am not saying to live your life the way you started it. I am not saying not to hope and not to aim for more. But, everything can be done if you follow a simple path, then your hope and aim would definitely be fruitful, not today but definitely tomorrow.

Everyone has a complicated life, not a problematic one and that's the reason we do not tend to enjoy it or smile about it or be happy about it. A person can only smile or laugh if he would have a simpler situation. So, try to keep everything simple, life is not about ego, it is not about proving others wrong. Life was meant to be simple and to keep it simple.

Tuesday 5 August 2014

Uncertainty of Life!

'When I'll be back, we'll go for dinner in a fancy restaurant' said a mother to her child before getting on MH370. 'Dad, please come back soon, I have a lot to tell you and have a safe flight' said a child to his father who was getting on MH17. 'I love you and I'll surely miss you. Don't worry we'll meet soon, it's just a month' said a person to his wife who was later killed in a car accident.

There is nothing as such, 'Will meet you next time', there is nothing as such, 'will do the rest tomorrow.' There is nothing like tomorrow, there is nothing like future. What's there for you at the next turn, no one knows. What's there for you at the next hour, you don't know.

Imagine those people how would they have felt when the person very close to them might have died. Not only this, what if the two had quarreled over a topic and the 2nd person would have left to avoid a scene and the next news he might have heard was the death of the 1st. It could be by anything, road accident, heart-attack, falling down from stairs, anything. Imagine the guilt the other person would hold. Imagine the regret the people hold when their loved ones suffer a sudden demise and they wouldn't be able to say the final goodbye.

I know a person who was in school when his grand-mother was very ill. Daily that person used to smile before going to school and the grand-mother would return back a smile with a few words like, 'Had breakfast' or anything while she remained in the bed. One day that person woke up late, he looked at her grand-mother who was sleeping, her eyes closed but in a hurry didn't wait for her to wake and didn't smile that day. While he was in school, someone came to his school to pick him up and to inform him that his grand-mother died. Imagine the emotions that person would have went through? He could have waited a few seconds to smile but it wasn't in his fate.

Life is too short and hating and fighting with the person whom you love should be considered to be a waste of time. You never know, one day you will hurriedly go for office without meeting your family members but you won't come back. Success, career, accomplishment should be important but keeping your loved ones happy should be the prime item in the list, because again you never know what will happen next.

What will you prefer? Final goodbye with a smile or final goodbye with a fight. Obviously the 1st option. Death is not controlled, it's not in your hands but keeping good terms, living happily, making everyone smile, that is in your hands and which you can control very easily.

At the end, everyone has to die, whether today or tomorrow, it doesn't matter. You will be left with memories which will make you cry, which will make you regret all the bad times which you experienced before. It's your choice, have those memories with everyone that you'll cherish even after the person's death, not those that you'll be succumbed to regret.

Personally, I'm not afraid to fail in the exams, I'm not afraid of failing to achieve anything, I'm not afraid to taste failure. I'm only afraid to lose the people I care about.

Stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about others. For me, I don't feel satisfied to make myself happy rather I feel the best to make others happy, to see people smile because of me. The idea of keeping yourself happy is long gone in the past, make others happy, make others smile, surely there would be someone to do the same for you too.

Saturday 21 June 2014

'Chance': You were already given!

I was terrified, scared and restless for seeing all doors in-front of me closed. I was not talking to anyone, I was staying recluse, I was running far away from everyone. I was doing all kinds of weirdness, I was irritated and frustrated. I had no hope, no ray of light, nowhere to go.

I believe at one point of time, it happens with everyone when you raise many questions on your own existence, on your life, on your luck, on the chances given, on the opportunities you lost, on seeing success of others and yours failure. It is a common psychology when you are preparing for something with all your heart and when a roadblock hits you hard amid the process, you tend to lose, you tend to be mentally exhausted.

I was working on something from quite some time and thought of having a review. I showed my work to someone and got the mixed response, though the negative ones could be improved easily, but I was stunned and startled. I saw myself falling down, saw myself crushing my own dreams, saw myself talking nonsense to everyone, saw myself thinking the worst that could happen to me. But I was wrong.

Actually, I'm blessed with some people who are with me and who comes and teaches me every time, seriously every time, whenever I wish to quit my dreams. It's in my habit or maybe others also, I tend to start questioning the meaning of life. Why were we born? Who is God? What is Universe? Where would we go after death? Were we born simply to face the problems throughout our lifetime and then die hurting others?

The possible and the best explanation I got from someone was, 'The life which you were given is itself a CHANCE which no one realizes. Even if there is no explanation of many things, would you be happier to have a life of a rat or would you be happier to have a life of a human?'

Science will always fight with the BELIEFS, but it us who are caught in between. We are living, that itself is a chance because there are many creatures who are also in this world but that's not living. But being 'Human' is a chance, a chance to do anything you wish to do, which you like, which you want to. Rather questioning your existence, rather questioning the closed door, rather questioning the lost opportunities, rather questioning your failures, think only one thing that is, you are living, you are a human, this is your chance! Period.

Who knows what happens after we die and who cares? We should not waste that much of time to think the after-life shit, instead we have a chance because we are living. So, create opportunities, open new doors, leave the failures behind and take a detour to reach success.

Total living things, including all the animals, insects, plants and human beings on this planet would be much more than 10000 billions but see, you are lucky enough to be Human. 'Life' is a chance not a burden. 'Life' is an asset not a liability. The Chance was already given to you, it's time to utilize!

Monday 10 March 2014

Parents!!

What I have written till now and what I usually write is usually related to Success and Motivation stuff but the reason why I actually write is my Parents! Yes, they are the only reason why I started to write and I'm glad I have done this.

Without looking any childhood pictures because they bring back the old memories, I remember a scene I guess I was 3 years old because before that I don't remember anything, so, I was sitting on my papa's laps and both were watching a cricket match. He was interested in watching the match where as I was least interested and had my full attention towards my papa who was smiling at me, making faces as I looked at him.

The reason for writing this post is because today in the morning, I asked my father to credit me some money because I was broke, AGAIN! Naturally like any other father, he asked me the reason because the last time I asked was just a week before, yet I was over with the money. A little explanation to him, and he transferred a little more than I asked without any scuffle, without any altercation over phone. Now this is the part where I feel living in Hostel sucks because that was the time when I wanted to hug my father, or smile at him. But, no I couldn't, I was refrained to only say thank you!

I desist myself from any kind of work, lied down, played songs on the phone, and remembered everything from the starting. I was nostalgic, deep into nostalgic as I remembered every small stuff, every small detail how my mother would put me over the slab and then cook dinner while I sat there placid and calmly looking at the most beautiful person, how my father would make me stand in-front of him on the scooter and when I would feel the cold breeze he would turn my face towards him. I could write a whole book of events, lively and memorable moments and events with my parents.

Last Summer, me and my brother told my parents to take us to a trip, that was awesome too though, the real trip, the real adventure are the moments which you share regularly, daily. You don't know how much precious they are until and unless you move out of the home and live in all new world. Being is hostel feels like being independent, but I still miss my home, I miss my parents, I miss my brother. The most common words which everyone says are, 'I miss Mom's cooked food', but what everyone misses is the warmth and love which radiate from her and transfers in to the food.

There are times when every child would have become hostile, when they demanded from their parents and there are times in everyone's life when they simply can't fulfill your wishes not because they don't want to, but just because they can't at that very moment. Sharing one example, I asked for a new phone, they refused, i asked again they refused, again and refused, I went home from hostel in semester break, I asked again and they refused but one night we all returned after doing dinner from outside, and what I got was a brand new phone, a surprise gift from my parents and my brother.


If any person would say I hate my parents, they have nothing done for me then possibly one should take a knife and stab the person, stab enough to die. If Parents go against you, then that is for a reason, they know better than you, if they shackle you from doing anything, understand it, just because they know what might be the consequences.

Frankly, I have shouted, I have fought a lot with them and now I regret doing everything like that because now I understand the true and real values which they have taught me over the years. Whenever any kind of quarrel occurs with my parents and unintentionally if I might have said anything, it would have been venting out my anger but for them that's hurt, hurt right at heart. I feel bad now, why-just why I argued with them so vaguely, being so naive that I caused them hurt, cause them to cry inside.

I have read somewhere and this is a fact, 'Whole world might go against you but your parents would always hold your hand', until and unless you do something remarkably unethical. What I learnt in all these years is, if your parents give you a straight no, then understand them than be aggressive, sit with them and ask the problem rather scream on top of your lungs and go out!

Even an atheist believes in his/her parents, no matter he/she doesn't believe in anything else. Respect your parents, they did more than enough for you and would continue doing more than their reach till their end. Respect their love for you, no parents hates their kids. Respect your parents for guiding you, respect your parents for giving you values, respect your parents for everything. Life is very short, very unpredictable, don't be a person who would regret later for not doing anything for his/her parents, be a person who knows how to keep his/her parents happy and satisfied. Even when they retire and you would earn, most importantly they would require your care, your support and your presence. Laugh with them, live with them, thank them and love them!

Friday 14 February 2014

Find yourself!

'Mom, I want to become rich, famous and I wish to have enough money that I could do anything I want to.' This is the most common line every parent would have heard, even I thought of the same but that was childhood, when a 100 Rs note was more satisfying than anything else. However, the adulthood hit us hard, hard enough to crack our outer layer, opening our inside, enabling us to see harsh, ruthless, vicious world which is known to us as LIFE!

I never realized when my dream of becoming a Pilot was modified so badly that I landed up in an engineering college along with thousands of others who had the same dream in their early years. I never realized I would be so frightened to face the world on my own, it was just like yesterday standing behind my parents as they fought to make way for me. I never realized when the time changed and I have to wash my clothes, manage the monthly budget and spend scrupulously, it was like yesterday when I was at home and sneaked 5 Rs from my mother's purse to get a chocolate.

Being in hostel, being independent has taught me a lot. But wait, where does the money come from? Yes, parents yet, independent yet? No, no way. I haven't started my life yet, I haven't started earning yet.
I would say if anyone wouldn't have seen any mental hospital then visit any engineering college and talk to the 3rd and 4th years students and just ask them, 'Placements, GATE, GRE, CAT, GMAT, UPSC or anything else?'

Being in 6th semester and seeing Placement companies and Higher studies' competition exams around the corner, trembles me. It's like passing through a graveyard at midnight, no matter you believe there are no ghosts, no dead corpse would rise up from their grave but the people around you would make you believe of their existence. You might and would pass through successfully but the tormented condition you might have to face would be unbearable.

Every person going through the same phase has many options but each one is going through a dark tunnel, you don't know what is on the other side but you have to believe and trust in yourself. That's the only source of light which will pass you through. Although the main adversity arises when a person doesn't know which tunnel to pass through, and that creates chaos and havoc in their mind which turns into over-thinking, stress, mood swings and importantly fracas with friends.

I recall a line from the movie, 'Pursuit of Happyness' when Will Smith tells his son, I would rather copy paste it.
''Hey. Don't ever let somebody tell you... You can't do something. Not even me. All right?
You got a dream... You gotta protect it. People can't do somethin' themselves, they wanna tell you you can't do it. If you want somethin', go get it.''

Now, that's the reality. People try to discourage you in every possible way if you step on something else, something unusual, not the traditional way, not because they despise you but they are too fearful of taking risk that they would rather be in the conventional path than on the other. Well, that's the safest mode and the best one, I agree but this is the time when you have to decide yourself, what do you want to do? A sadist profession or a happy ambition.

If you wish to go to foreign, don't have another thought, prepare for it but have a contingency plan to execute. There is not much time left when your parents will be in hope to get your services and if you are still in dilemma what do you want to do and what do you want to be, then gear up fast because the high tides are coming very fast, either protect yourself or be engulfed, either find yourself now or cry at yourself later!